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Post by gardencrazy on Jul 25, 2012 14:42:54 GMT -5
I'll be 44 in a couple weeks. So far I have not dyed my hair. I got my first gray at 28, but general didn't have a lot of gray until I hit 43. At 43 the gray started pouring in! I feel like I should resist the social pressures of dying my hair and be a crunchy, granola, environmentally friend type (after all I am an environmental consultant!)
However, I look in the mirror and I feel so old!!! I have a sister who is 2 years older than me that does not have any gray hair. She will neither confirm nor deny dying her hair (personally, I think she and her husband dye their hair the same color.)
Anyway, do you dye your hair? When did you start to dye it? What was the deciding factor that made you take the plunge?
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Post by gardentoad on Jul 25, 2012 19:53:04 GMT -5
I'm 59. Started getting gray hairs in my forties but decided against dying it because I didn't like the idea of chemicals so close to my brain. Need to protect all the brain cells I can at my age. LOL I did dye my hair for my daughter's wedding almost 4 years ago but let it go back to gray afterwards. It's not completely gray yet but it's headed more that way every year.
My husband's hair has gone more of a silver color. Wish mine looked like that. Doesn't seem fair somehow. LOL
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Post by kay on Jul 25, 2012 23:33:33 GMT -5
My hair is turning white and it won't hold dye. So, no, I don't dye mine. It is just a mix of red and white. Tie it up with a blue ribbon and celebrate the ole red,white, and blue!
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Post by bluelacedredhead on Jul 26, 2012 6:44:58 GMT -5
Remember the blue rinses that elderly ladies used to use to 'cover the gray'? Well, I don't dye my hair either but that's why I became bluelacedredhead
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Post by Penny on Jul 26, 2012 8:26:19 GMT -5
I dye mine, i started getting gray hair at 35!!!
Now that i am in my 40's, i still like to have it look natural, or as natural as my hairdresser makes it look.
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Post by nightmist on Jul 26, 2012 8:44:05 GMT -5
I started dyeing my hair a bit after I started going grey.
My hair was not greying gracefully, and it just looked so untidy. Like I had been dunning out the basement without a scarf or something. I think part of it may be that my natural color is black, so it really popped out at you.
I noodled with changing the color. I did find a burgandy red that looked awesome. It didn't show much on the black, and the grey came out nearly blood red. Then I found out that I could only get that color in Canada. So I went back to my natural color.
DH wants me to give up on drugstore color and go to using indigo. It's a bit of a fuss, and pre-reduced indigo would cost as much or more for the amount I would need. I have long hair. It would ease him some though. He has been nervey since I got sick, though the surgery seems to have taken care of it.
I haven't dyed my hair these last 7-8 months because I didn't know if I was doing the short course of chemo the doctor initially planned. One of the drugs they were planning is one of the get up in the morning and leave your hair on the pillow after a single treatment kinds. However through virtue of a minor infection leading to a long healing process, and the insurance company refusing to pay for it, it got put off. Now they think I am doing well enough that it won't be necessary. Yay! I get to keep my hair and not spend a couple of months puking blue!
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Post by LinFL on Jul 26, 2012 13:47:05 GMT -5
Sounds like a lucky infection, Nightmist! My best wishes for your complete recovery. I decided in my early 20s that I wanted to be blonde. (My natural color is brown.) I was a pale blonde for oh, a couple years or so. I went to the hairdresser every six weeks to maintain it, because I was nervous about screwing it up if I did it at home. Looking back at the pics, it's obvious that I chose too light a blonde; it really wasn't natural-looking with my skin tone...or my brown eyebrows! Then I decided that I wanted a body wave. Very. Bad. Idea. You see, my hair was okay with a perm, or with getting bleached. It was NOT okay with both at the same time. My halfway-down-the-back hair became so brittle that it started breaking off in clumps! Time for an emergency shoulder-length haircut. Worst of the damage gone - whew! But now I was really nervous about continuing to bleach my hair, because I was afraid even more of it would start to break. But I knew I would hate the seeing the abrupt line between my natural color and the blonde. So I asked my hairdresser about darkening my hair to something close to my original color, so it wouldn't be so obvious during the grow out. The hairdresser said that should be fine - stripping pigment out to make hair lighter is very damaging, but adding pigment to hair is not nearly as damaging. Very. Bad. Idea. Actually, darkening my hair was not a bad idea per se. The problem was that my hairdresser was about my age, and had no experience with corrective color. Attempt #1: When my hairdresser removed the cap to inspect my hair, she went deathly pale. She replaced the cap, went to her back room and placed a phone call to the service line for the dye maker. I overheard part of it: "What do you mean there's no green base in this color? I have a client under the dryer now, and her hair is green. LIKE A TREE!" I started freaking out inside my head. You see, this was late Thursday afternoon, and I had an interview for my first real professional job scheduled for Monday a.m. This was a "conservative navy business suit and mid-heel pumps" company. "Tree hair" would never fly. She refused to let me look at myself in a mirror, but while she was mixing up the next batch of dye, I pulled a strand of hair around to see. One glance was enough for me: she was not exaggerating. Attempt #2: After a frantic consultation with the service rep for the dye company, my hairdresser thought she had a fix. She applied the dye and assured me everything would be all right. When she lifted the cap, she looked concerned. "Let's see how it rinses out," she said. So she washed it out, and dried my hair. The green was gone. But my hair was a lovely shade of eggplant. Seriously, it glowed with a rich, deep purple sheen when the light caught it. I'm sure there are women who would kill to get such a striking shade. Me, I was almost ready to kill to get rid of it. By this time, it was after 7:00 p.m., we were both exhausted and hungry, and we called it a night. She swore she'd research it and she WOULD figure out a way to fix my hair before Monday, no matter what it took. We made an appointment for me to come in the next day. I went home and cried. Attempt #3: Filled with dread, I showed up at the hairdresser's shop the next afternoon. She told me she had spent all evening and most of that day on the phone with experienced hairdressers and one of her former cosmetology instructors, and now had a plan: She wanted to dye my hair blonde again.As I scraped my jaw off the floor, she explained that she knew what shade to use to balance out the purple, and thought she could stop it a little early so it wouldn't be as light as it had been before...and hopefully wouldn't damage the hair much. Since the only other option I could think of involved a razor and a wig, I agreed. To my great relief, it mostly worked. I ended up a little lighter than my normal shade, and my hair only had a slight green cast under fuorescent light - as though I'd spent too much time in swimming pools. She only had to cut another inch or so off and add a few long layers in the back to excise the damaged hair. I wasn't truly happy with my hair, but at that point "not horrible" was good enough for us to declare victory. ________________________________________________________ It was over a decade before I allowed a hairdresser to approach my hair with dye again. Even then, I only agreed because she was an extremely experienced hairdresser (35+ years on the job) and it was a subtle highlighting job. It also helped that when I told her my horror story, she told me exactly what the other hairdresser had done wrong and what she should have done - she also told me she'd made a lot of money over the years fixing other hairdressers' color mistakes. (I wish I'd known about her then!) I'm 41 now and getting a few gray hairs. In a couple of years I'll have to decide whether to risk hair dye again. That experienced hairdresser has retired, and my current hairdresser only has about 20 years' experience. I'm not sure that's enough for me. P.S. - I got that job. Unfortunately, the company went bankrupt shortly after I was hired (not my fault, I swear! ) and my whole department was laid off four months after I was hired. Ah, well.
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Post by marielouise on Jul 26, 2012 23:21:51 GMT -5
My hair color was a deep auburn and extremely thick and long --- buttt during the summer the sun would bleach out streaks so years passed and those streaks went grey first . At the time a friend used to say that each grey hair was a sign of an experiance--good bad or indifferent ---yep said friend greyed very early in life and colors would not work in her hair , turned it a dirty yellow .
So now that my hair is a silver color, I say ; This ole gal had lots of fun gaining each and every one of them there grey hairs.
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Post by w8n4dave on Jul 27, 2012 16:48:05 GMT -5
I used to be in the beauty industry , so yes I used to dye my hair, used to get my Nails done used to tan... All it got me was dry hair, weak nails and leather skin... I do NOT , dye my hair anymore, I am more grey than Dave he is almost ten years older than me , I asked him and he said let it go.. So I did! One of the hardest things I ever did, once in a while I will put a wash out dye on it! Any hoo I am just the way I am I don't care what people think, it is natural to have grey hair, gets me more respect!! So what if I look older , I am me naturally!! once you start to dye it your tied to that bottle .... Well hubbs just got home so I gotta fly!! TTYS
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Post by gardencrazy on Jul 27, 2012 18:01:57 GMT -5
Gardentoad - glad you're not dying it. I'm concerned about those chemicals too. Kay - Love that patriotic spirit! BLRH - I wonder if that's why Marge Simpson's hair is blue?! Penny - I had a friend who started going noticeably gray in her 20's. That's whenshe started dying it. I had no idea she was dying it. Nightmist - Glad you're doing better and won't need further treatments. Stay healthy! LinFl - WOW! I would have never dyed my hair again after that experience. I'm glad its been a more positive experience though. MarieLousie - I like to say that each one of my gray hairs is like a tiny silver metal I earned in life. W8n4dave - I like your spirit regarding gray hair. By the way, is it gray? or grey?
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Post by LinFL on Jul 29, 2012 11:01:35 GMT -5
"Gray" and "grey" are both accepted spellings in the U.S.
That hair dye story is funny to me now. When I tell it in person, I really get into it, imitating my very excitable young hairdresser's voice and accent. I always get laughs.
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Post by garrett on Jul 29, 2012 13:16:13 GMT -5
you wimmens go natural.smiles yer all beautiful as god made you.smiles
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Post by garrett on Aug 1, 2012 11:33:26 GMT -5
smiles
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Post by LinFL on Aug 1, 2012 14:44:35 GMT -5
you wimmens go natural.smiles yer all beautiful as god made you.smiles It would certainly be cheaper! My sis just told me what her stylist is charging for color these days. No wonder she is doing hers at home now!
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Post by zinniagirl on Aug 3, 2012 11:55:14 GMT -5
About 20 years ago, I covered the beginning grays. Did it for a few years, then decided to grow it out. Never regretted the decision to got natural, but no matter which hairdresser I go to for a cut, they always try to talk me into coloring.
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Post by w8n4dave on Aug 3, 2012 12:01:45 GMT -5
Yea I cut my own hair also, I cut Daves hair I cut the dogs hair.... I rarley spend money on hair cuts!
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Post by zinniagirl on Aug 4, 2012 19:03:54 GMT -5
Yea I cut my own hair also, I cut Daves hair I cut the dogs hair.... I rarley spend money on hair cuts! I cut hubby's (also a Dave) hair. He used to cut mine when I had it all one length, but he refuses to try on layers. I told him I wasn't worried as it would grow out, but he still won't do it.
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Post by gardencrazy on Jan 21, 2014 17:12:51 GMT -5
I broke down and dyed it just before Christmas. It was amazing how something so superficial made me feel so much better!!!
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Post by w8n4dave on Jan 28, 2014 10:16:45 GMT -5
gardencrazy I quit dying my hair for a while. a few years in fact. But I was at the Drs. Office with a friend and the Dr. Came out to get me, he said your her and I know he was going to say her mom, I said sister. LOL She is 6 months older than me!! Dave is 60 years old and He only has gray in his beard, when he shaves people say he takes 20 years off. I got tired of people thinking I am older than Dave when I am 7 years younger! (When He's shaved) So I dyed my hair! I have a friend that used to be a hair dresser, I let her dye it, and so I got it dyed and got it dyed good! A lil dark for me but thats ok. It made me feel better now people think me and my friend are sisters, and ask how much younger I am than Dave Makes me feel so much better. Now how to keep it from falling out lol ...
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Post by garrett on Jan 29, 2014 11:04:40 GMT -5
I am thinking of superglue for my own hair.in state and never will move....grins
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Post by garrett on Jan 29, 2014 11:05:00 GMT -5
get er done you alls.....smiles
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Post by gardencrazy on Jan 29, 2014 19:14:35 GMT -5
Just don't try and rock a comb over Garret!
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Post by w8n4dave on Jan 29, 2014 21:09:19 GMT -5
I am thinking of superglue for my own hair.in state and never will move....grins Let me know how that works out for ya
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Post by garrett on Feb 9, 2014 10:49:54 GMT -5
grins i'll keep you posted.
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Post by garrett on Feb 9, 2014 10:50:18 GMT -5
stay glued to your screen?
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