Post by nightmist on Aug 1, 2012 17:58:46 GMT -5
I have got to rant and scream, and I have to do it someplace safe. Otherwise I will likely either end up tasered or in jail or both.
About 5 years ago DD1 got with a fella, then turned up pregnant quicker than you can spit.
As a result she stayed with him a heck of a lot longer than she should have or wanted to.
It was pretty obvious pretty quick that what the man wants in a woman is somebody who will be his momma during the day and his wife at night. This is the kind of guy who was shocked that she didn't butter his biscuits and cut up his meat at the supper table. He is a functional (or semi-functional) alcoholic, who doesn't turn up his nose if something stronger comes along.
His two ex-wives divorced him citing abuse as grounds. So it was no wonder that a couple of years later that she ended up in a domestic violence shelter.
She was confused, as was the hospital, and the shelter workers, when the local police discouraged her from filing charges, took a report but never filed the paperwork so she could press charges, and as a result of no charges being filed refused to give her an OP.
Fast forward a year and a half.
Papa has managed to pay off all of his traffic fines, and gets a conditional drivers license. In the past he has been initially charged with felony DWI or DUI several times, but always managed to get the charges reduced. He goes out drinking, and rolls the car in the course of the night. He flunks his field sobriety test, they cannot take him to the station for the solid breathalyzer because they have to take him to the hospital to make sure he didn't damage himself in the accident. At the hospital they do a blood drug screen (that includes alcohol), which shows he was dead drunk, and under the influence of muscle relaxants and opiates.
The charges were felony DWI, driving with a conditional license (only supposed to be driving too and from work, school, medical appointments, or therapy, and never after sundown except in case of emergency), driving with an open container of alcohol, and several assorted traffic violations.
It comes out that the police got the bloodwork without a warrant or the drunken idiot's permission, so ALL the charges are dropped.
However, a felony DWI charge was brought against a parent with joint custody. Enter CPS.
They scoop up my autistic 4 year old grandson from his mother's house and carry him off to foster care. He does not react well, resulting in trips to the ER, a doctor advising the foster mom to dose him with benedryl just to keep him from clawing at his face, and the foster mom being extremely pissed because CPS flat out lied to her about grandson's disability. They told her he was deaf (he is not) and never mentioned that he is autistic. No wonder the poor baby was frustrated and acting out! They also never told her that he is a proven flight risk, so she had some adventures with that. They ended up putting my lil punkin in a group home. I have been tearing my hair out because they have gotten to the point where they actually want me to take him, and I can't. I could and would happily, but they would require paperwork and inspections, and I have a minor child under my roof that I cannot imperil by letting them in. Yes they would absolutely do that, in fact they have a record of it.
So, as a result of all this mess, DD has lost her job and her apartment. I cannot have her here until she is clear of the child thieves. The court case had progressed to the point where they told her that if she finds a new place to live she can have her son back.
Now they have found her guilty of allowing grandson to be alone with his father.
Never mind that she had no way to deny his visitation (and she tried when she knew he was drunk). Never mind that when she stayed at his house to watch the kids when she knew he was drunk that he actually called the police and had her removed. Never mind that when she explained the situation to the police they told her that she could do nothing about it and had to leave.
While dad may have had all the charges dropped in criminal court, you do not have any rights at all in family court, and all that evidence was perfectly admissible there. The judge tried to be nice and ordered him into therapy and drug court (drug court is her baby). The freaking idiot tried to argue with her and claim she was "violating his rights". Then when he lost that argument he dropped out of drug court and changed his therapy to a private provider that his mother arranged. Now he can fall into a drunken heap Sunday night and pass a pee test on Monday morning. Miracle of miracles he also passed a hair test, came out squeaky clean even though the blood test a couple of months earlier showed he had opiates in his system. He actually spent the night in the drunk tank, and they agreed to postpone a test he was supposed to have the next day, because he was feeling "unwell". Right this minute I am feeling very unpleasant towards people with more money than they can spend. I am very much hoping that the judge is very cranky about him quitting drug court.
As noted above, he has managed to not have domestic violence charges filed against him, just mentioned as a cause in his divorce proceedings.
CPS wants DD to testify about that. If she does, they say they will soften up about the charge of leaving GS alone with his papa. She is scared to death. There are a number of people who have refused to testify because they are afraid of being pounded spitless. DD is certain that he will actually kill her if she does. He is already blaming her for all this mess ( gotta blame somebody else and she has her name on the papers too). He has hit her more than once since it started. Since they keep throwing the two of them together at court appearances, she cannot even talk to her lawyer in private (court appointed, you get 15 minutes in the hall before the proceeding).
More than anything I just want to walk into that courtroom and give every last one of them what for! Then snatch up my baby boy and bring him Home.
About 5 years ago DD1 got with a fella, then turned up pregnant quicker than you can spit.
As a result she stayed with him a heck of a lot longer than she should have or wanted to.
It was pretty obvious pretty quick that what the man wants in a woman is somebody who will be his momma during the day and his wife at night. This is the kind of guy who was shocked that she didn't butter his biscuits and cut up his meat at the supper table. He is a functional (or semi-functional) alcoholic, who doesn't turn up his nose if something stronger comes along.
His two ex-wives divorced him citing abuse as grounds. So it was no wonder that a couple of years later that she ended up in a domestic violence shelter.
She was confused, as was the hospital, and the shelter workers, when the local police discouraged her from filing charges, took a report but never filed the paperwork so she could press charges, and as a result of no charges being filed refused to give her an OP.
Fast forward a year and a half.
Papa has managed to pay off all of his traffic fines, and gets a conditional drivers license. In the past he has been initially charged with felony DWI or DUI several times, but always managed to get the charges reduced. He goes out drinking, and rolls the car in the course of the night. He flunks his field sobriety test, they cannot take him to the station for the solid breathalyzer because they have to take him to the hospital to make sure he didn't damage himself in the accident. At the hospital they do a blood drug screen (that includes alcohol), which shows he was dead drunk, and under the influence of muscle relaxants and opiates.
The charges were felony DWI, driving with a conditional license (only supposed to be driving too and from work, school, medical appointments, or therapy, and never after sundown except in case of emergency), driving with an open container of alcohol, and several assorted traffic violations.
It comes out that the police got the bloodwork without a warrant or the drunken idiot's permission, so ALL the charges are dropped.
However, a felony DWI charge was brought against a parent with joint custody. Enter CPS.
They scoop up my autistic 4 year old grandson from his mother's house and carry him off to foster care. He does not react well, resulting in trips to the ER, a doctor advising the foster mom to dose him with benedryl just to keep him from clawing at his face, and the foster mom being extremely pissed because CPS flat out lied to her about grandson's disability. They told her he was deaf (he is not) and never mentioned that he is autistic. No wonder the poor baby was frustrated and acting out! They also never told her that he is a proven flight risk, so she had some adventures with that. They ended up putting my lil punkin in a group home. I have been tearing my hair out because they have gotten to the point where they actually want me to take him, and I can't. I could and would happily, but they would require paperwork and inspections, and I have a minor child under my roof that I cannot imperil by letting them in. Yes they would absolutely do that, in fact they have a record of it.
So, as a result of all this mess, DD has lost her job and her apartment. I cannot have her here until she is clear of the child thieves. The court case had progressed to the point where they told her that if she finds a new place to live she can have her son back.
Now they have found her guilty of allowing grandson to be alone with his father.
Never mind that she had no way to deny his visitation (and she tried when she knew he was drunk). Never mind that when she stayed at his house to watch the kids when she knew he was drunk that he actually called the police and had her removed. Never mind that when she explained the situation to the police they told her that she could do nothing about it and had to leave.
While dad may have had all the charges dropped in criminal court, you do not have any rights at all in family court, and all that evidence was perfectly admissible there. The judge tried to be nice and ordered him into therapy and drug court (drug court is her baby). The freaking idiot tried to argue with her and claim she was "violating his rights". Then when he lost that argument he dropped out of drug court and changed his therapy to a private provider that his mother arranged. Now he can fall into a drunken heap Sunday night and pass a pee test on Monday morning. Miracle of miracles he also passed a hair test, came out squeaky clean even though the blood test a couple of months earlier showed he had opiates in his system. He actually spent the night in the drunk tank, and they agreed to postpone a test he was supposed to have the next day, because he was feeling "unwell". Right this minute I am feeling very unpleasant towards people with more money than they can spend. I am very much hoping that the judge is very cranky about him quitting drug court.
As noted above, he has managed to not have domestic violence charges filed against him, just mentioned as a cause in his divorce proceedings.
CPS wants DD to testify about that. If she does, they say they will soften up about the charge of leaving GS alone with his papa. She is scared to death. There are a number of people who have refused to testify because they are afraid of being pounded spitless. DD is certain that he will actually kill her if she does. He is already blaming her for all this mess ( gotta blame somebody else and she has her name on the papers too). He has hit her more than once since it started. Since they keep throwing the two of them together at court appearances, she cannot even talk to her lawyer in private (court appointed, you get 15 minutes in the hall before the proceeding).
More than anything I just want to walk into that courtroom and give every last one of them what for! Then snatch up my baby boy and bring him Home.